Reading Suggestions!

These are some of the CyberRelate family fav books. If you have others you want to add? Let us know.

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  • Anal Pleasure & Health: a guide for men and women, by Jack Morin, Ph.D. Not an S/M title, but lots of good information for those interested in anal play.

  • The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex by Bill Brent. Considered by some a great resource in an easy to read and understand format about the joys of butt sex.

  • The Anatomy Coloring Book A good all-purpose book to show the many aspects of the male and female body. Great as a resource for safety areas. 

  • The Erotic Mind. By Jack Morin. An interesting read on the psychological goings on in ourselves and how that links to sex, passion and love.

  • Going Down. The Instinct Guide to Oral Sex. By Ben Rogers & Joel Perry. A “tongue-n-cheek” that is perfect as a primer for all the fun your mouth (or his mouth) can come up with.

  •  A Gay Man’s Guide to Prostate Cancer. Gerald Perlman & Jack Drescher. As we age, prostate cancer and prostate health is an important consideration. This book is a collections of contributors that explores facts and fears specific to gay men.

  • Consensual Sadomasochism, by William A. Henkin, Ph.D. &  Sybil Holiday, CCSSE. An S/M how-to book that addresses the communication end of play as well as the basics to it.

  • Learning the Ropes – A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/M Lovemaking, by Race Bannon. An introduction to the basics of S/M for all sexes and orientations.

  •  Leathersex Q&A, by Joseph Bean. Question and Anwsers about leathersex and the leather lifestyle

  •  Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player, by Joseph Bean.

  • SM 101: A Realistic Introduction, by Jay Wiseman.

  • Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style-Issues, Commentaries and Advice, by Guy Baldwin,  Collection of edited articles on a variety of leather/SM/fetish scene topics.

  • Trust by Burt Herman. A book dedicated to the art of fisting and ass play.

  •  Leather And Latex Care: How To Keep Your Leather And Latex Looking Great by Kelly J. Thibault. A must for anyone owning leather and/or latex items.

  • The New Topping Book  This book covers the hows and whys of playing the dominant role, written by two experienced players. Sections include: What do tops do?, How do you learn?, S/M ethics, Wild scenes we have known, If it doesn’t go the way you planned, Toys, Where all the bottoms are, and Shadow play. By Dossie Easton is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor who specializes in the concerns of people with alternative sexualities. A lesbian bottom, she has been active in the S/M scene since the early 1960s.

  •  The New Bottoming Book  Since the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming – being a submissive, masochist, slave boy or girl, or other BDSM recipient – is as much an art as topping, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players.Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book gives even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular bottom! New sections on dominance/submission play, bridging the gap from on-line to real-time relationships, the four stages of a scene, and more. In addition, this book includes Fish`s hot illustrations of bottoms in action, many moving and funny anecdotes, and an extra-large helping of the realistic wisdom for which these authors are known. By Dossie Easton is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor who specializes in the concerns of people with alternative sexualities.