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Dear CyberRelate Guys,
Having lived in the US for eight years now I have become aware of the “cult of foreskin” that exists here. I had always assumed that extra skin at the end of your dick was no big deal, it being the norm where I come from but obviously I was wrong. I have further exacerbated this anomaly by getting a PA which prompted a bartender in Cincinnati to invite half the bar in to the restroom to watch me piss. (A little disconcerting but I managed to not spray on too many of them).
Anyway, having been the object of foreskin envy, I recently discovered a fun toy for playing with those that like a “turtle neck” on their dick. It’s a gelatin rubber masturbator sleeve.
They come in a number of colors but the prevailing one for some strange reason seems to be pink. Basically it’s a cylinder about six inches long. Designed to be extremely stretchy with a texture somewhat like stiff jello. The idea is that you take a little lube and grease up the tube and then slide the sleeve down over your dick.
Simple enough and very pleasant but wait there’s more.
When I am playing with someone who has expressed an interest in my foreskin but lacks their own, I like to slide it onto their dick and keep it on with a string, cockring or bootlace (boot can be left attached for added points here). They get to feel the sleeve on their dick and pull it back and forth like a larger version of a foreskin. If I want to tweak them further, I make them pull the end of the masturbator over the head of their dick and then I slide my own dick into the sleeve. This feels a lot like docking to me, by the way docking is where one guy slides his dick into the foreskin of another, an interesting experience in its own right. For guys out there that like foreskin, pushing your dick up into the rubber sleeve against his dick can produce some very gratifying results. The best things about it—its washable with soap and warm water and easy to clean!
Many of the better sex shops now sell them, including Mr S Leathers in San Francisco and at under $15 bucks its a great toys to have in your box. I’ve also seen lots of knock off versions around for even cheaper, including amazon, but prefer the better quality ones.
Dear CyberRelate,
What’s the best way to take care of my sex toys, things like dildos and butt plugs?
PJ
Pj –
It’s really pretty simple;
For most good quality Latex or rubber insertables – you can wash them in you regular household dishwasher – but don’t use the sani-cycle unless you want soup or cracking to occur.
The other way that works is to wash them with any type of antibacterial soup and hot water (you might want to wear gloves for this) rinse them well and let them soak in a pail of 1 part bleach to 10 parts waters for 10 minutes, then rewash.
For the new Cyber-skin type toys- you can use soap and water, but the bleach may be too strong so you should think about how you use them and avoid sharing them.
There are other types commercial cleaners on the market some of which work especially well on silicone based toys, which are pretty hearty and clean up fine and some that will work on a wide assortment of toys.
The fastest and easiest way to clean them is simply to cover them with a condom, makes clean up an cinch. The washing will remove or kill most common STD’s, but the verdict is still out on Hepatitis C, hence the suggestion to not share toys.
Dear CyberRelate,
What’s the best way to take care of my sex toys, things like dildos and butt plugs?
PJ
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Pj –
It’s really pretty simple;
For Latex insertables – you can wash them in you regular household dishwasher – but don’t use the sani-cycle unless you want latex soup.
The other way that works is to wash them with any type of antibacterial soup and hot water (you might want to wear latex gloves for this) rise them well and let them soak in a pail of 1 part bleach to 10 parts waters for 10 minutes, then rewash.
For the new Cyber-skin type toys- you can use soap and waters, but the bleach may be too strong so you should think about how you use them and avoid sharing them.
There are other types on the market such as silicone, which are pretty hearty and clean up fine. The fastest and easiest way to clean them is simply to cover them with a condom, makes clean up an cinch. The washing will remove or kill most common STD’s, but the verdict is still out on Hepatitis C, hence the suggestion to not share toys.
Dear CyberSex Guy
Every so often I try to get offline and actually meet someone I chat with. What’s the best way to introduce yourself to someone you know online—but never met in person? Keeping in mind, I’m hoping this we click and can take it from there… -TK
Ummm,, say hello?
OK, I am not being a smart ass here. Sometimes a simple “Hi, I’m X, its nice to finally meet in person.” is as effective as all those clever lines.
A smile while looking him in the eyes at the same time usually says the rest. One of the biggest goofs we do when trying to meet someone new, is we don’t know how to have small talk. No one wants to get right into his or your personal life. Even if you have spent hours talking smut already online.
Talk about things that you might have in common. Flirt; get a feel for where he is. Its ok to simply ask the other person— how is this going and what do they think?
The other suggestion I have it to know when to leave. There is something to that old saying that “ A lady knows when to leave the party”. Leave something for him to want to find out about you the next time you run into each other or on that date you finally get around to asking him on.
If you do click—you can be even more “vintage” and ask him out for a real date, in person!
Try it…
