Sullivan’s The Daily Beast on “Thug” politics

Well crafted words on Andrew Sullivan’ the Daily beast.

It’s been intresting following this drama while visting In Boston then Ptwn this week.

I haven’t commented on the Chick-Fil-A issue because, well I was too busy enjoying Mitt in London. Which is another reason to celebrate the existence of Glenn Greenwald. Here’s a classic Greenwald post – full of OCD updates, relentlessly researched, thoroughly linked, addressing every single counter-argument. Let me just add one word: amen.

Vacation in Provincetown

Grabbed Lunch with a bit of sugar to help with all this relaxing and noticed these T-shirts … The truth can hit so close to home sometimes.
Found at Relish


Have you touched your prostate today?

While its less common to hear, gay men’s health isn’t always about std & hiv.

We need to check out our Prostate health too !



circa 1997

Eric Rofes, Creating Change Speech

[Note: Eric died in June of 2006, and while I knew him for many years and in fact followed quite literally in his footsteps on several jobs and projects, we didn’t always agree — but he was one of the best minds and men I knew for challenging me and how I thought about sex, being gay and love.  For more on his work and life visit   –CR]

Jim Henson Company And Chick-Fil-A:’Muppets’ Makers Sever Ties With Anti-Gay Fast Food Chain

From Huffington Post

Anti-Gay Fast Food Chain


Last Friday, the company behind beloved shows such as “Fraggle Rock,” “Labyrinth,” and “The Muppets,” severed ties with Chick-Fil-A due to the fast food chain’s CEO’s opposition to same sex marriage.

According to “Muppets” fan, The Jim Henson Company had partnered with Chick-Fil-A to feature Jim Henson’s Creature Shop toys — “essentially a plastic tube with cut-out features for customizing your own puppet” — in their kid’s meals from mid-July until August 18th.

However, on Friday, the Jim Henson Company posted the following statement to theirFacebook page:

New Normal vs 100 Million Moms

… or is that 100 Million douchebags.. I always get them confused.


We’re totally stoked for Ryan Murphy’s upcoming NBC comedy, The New Normal, which sees a pair of expectant gay dads trying to get along with the surrogate carrying their baby.

But One Million Moms, the inaptly named right-wing group that threw a fit over JC Penney and Macy’s pro-gay initiatives, has the show in its sites.


Does identity & orientation trump skill?

Sally Ride, First American Woman In Space, Revealed To Have Female Partner Of 27 Years

| 5 hours ago


I struggle with this identity tango. Her siginificance is her contribution to modern history. As an astronaut, and first American woman granted.

I see the power that lends her as an important role model for lgbt’s. But I wonder does being the gay “x” or the first lesbian “y” lessen the skills we have that in some cases is what achieved our acclaim.

I don’t have the answer and know I fully have gained from my being labeled with the “gay” moniker, but I still wonder…

Sally Ride, First American Woman In Space, Revealed To Have Female Partner Of 27 Years – The Huffington Post

Well.. sometimes when you come to the party late..

You have to take some big stances to make up for hiding in the background for so long…

Ricky Martin Tweets About Homophobic Statement By Miss Peru, Cindy Mejia; Leads To Outcry And Apology

via HuffPost:
“In a recent interview with Peru21 — a Spanish-language media company — Cindy Mejia, Miss Peru, had some controversial things to say about gay children and if she would have an issue if her own child was gay. Shortly after the article was posted, Ricky Martin quickly responded to Mejia via Twitter.

The Apple… because some things are so bad they are good

So years ago when HBO first launched I saw The Apple odd glam rock opera that was a mash up of Adam & Eve meets gender bending, fashion forward messiness with a dash of “hair” tossed in.

I years I asked around about it – and never found anyone who could tell me they saw it- they little by little I found peeps who had seen it and saw the specialness of it. REcently they released it as a DVD (about friggen time!) of course by now I had managed to get a vcr version several years back – but now I hear that a a directors cut or unedited version may exist!

New York Horse-Drawn Carriage Driver Spouts Anti-Gay, Racist Slurs In Pride Weekend Tirade

New York Horse-Drawn Carriage Driver Spouts Anti-Gay, Racist Slurs In Pride Weekend Tirade (GRAPHIC) – The Huffington Post

New York’s horse-drawn carriages may be one of the city’s most iconic attractions, but tourists might think twice about riding one after watching this disturbing video (WARNING: contains graphic language).

As our friends at Towleroad reported, an unidentified carriage driver spouted a series of homophobic and racist epithets after he encountered a group of women distributing leaflets near Central Park during New York’s LGBT Pride weekend in late June.

LEATHERSEX & SPIRIT: Living an Authentic Life

How you incorporate leather. fetish and kink into your life is often a very personal and intuitive process. So while there are many schools of thought, and “leather leaders” who propose to know the one true way – it really comes down to finding the journey that best fits yours.
I’ve known Skip for many years and while my path and process isn’t always in tune with his – he none-the-less offers a significant opportunity to see how you can make the leather facet of you self, and see it as  an opportunity that is both active and integrative verses route and memorized from a scrip.
Leathermen’s Discussion Group Announcement: LEATHERSEX & SPIRIT: Living an Authentic Life w/ Master Skip Chasey
Leathermen’s Discussion Group Announcement

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

7:30 pm – 9:30 pm
Mr S. Playspace, 385A Eighth Street
Personal authenticity can only result from the integration of all aspects of our selves—including our sexuality and our spirituality—into one seamless and genuine whole. If we are to live authentically, including our fetishes and BDSM practices in this integration is as necessary and legitimate as including any other part of our lives. In this interactive workshop you will be a presenter as Master Skip facilitates a group discussion of how we as leatherfolk merge sex and spirit, why we do so, and the impact such integration makes on our individual and collective lives. Come and contribute your wisdom to the tribe!
SKIP CHASEY, a/k/a Master Skip, heads a family of spiritually grounded leatherfolk in the City of Angels, where he is a practicing spiritual director and certified Grief Recovery™ counselor and also earns a living as a missionary among the savages of Hollywood. As an out and proud leatherman, Master Skip addressed a crowd of nearly one million people at the Millennium March on Washington, and since then he has given ten keynote addresses and presented over 200 programs on the spiritual dynamics of SM and D/s relationships at noteworthy leather events throughout the US and Canada.

Syphilis Sux

You cant alway tell if you have Syphilis. Gay men especially sexually active ones- you need to test

Learn more about syphilis and whats in your area:


Dan Cathy, Chick-Fil-A President, On Anti-Gay Stance: ‘Guilty As Charged’ Posted: 07/17/2012 5:18 pm Updated: 07/18/2012 4:16 pm

via Huffpost…

Once again COO at  Chick-Fil-A  puts his arrogance out on the menu – but at least he isn’t lying about it any longer…

“Though Chick-fil-A has come under considerable fire for its documented support of anti-gay Christian organizations, officials for the fast food chain have remained mostly tight-lipped about the controversy — until now.

In a new interview with the Baptist Press, Chick-fil-A President Dan Cathy — the son of company founder S. Truett Cathy — addresses what the publication describes as his franchise’s “support of the traditional family.”

Cathy’s somewhat glib response: “Well, guilty as charged.”  [MORE]


You have to get your butt for an mid-week break!

9:00pm / $10, VIP $25

Get ready for a THURSDAY night you won’t ever forget. One ticket gets you into both events!

BeBe Sweetbriar presents DONNA, WHITNEY, and ME at 7pm and then teams up with porn legend Turk Mason from 9pm – 2am for PORNO, the hottest new Thursday night party in the city!

A musical tribute to Donna Somers and Whitney Houston benefitting the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus. Featuring THE FAMILIAR WATERS BAND with live performances by:

Now this.. wasn’t any “Recipe Book” these were real people

…who made mistakes, had great loves and deep sorrows but still managed to sexual and fresh, Pat Califia’s telling of the stories captures the essence of a time when kink, fetish wasn’t just about “insert peg “A” into slot “b”. It was about the journey. The paths one took, and the understanding that you might have a theme, you could never have it so scripted as to loose the passion and element of surprise.

Total Recall; Retelling with a sexier cast!

..and for those of you who didn’t read the full post and missed this!

“Of course I will go see it and I have hopes that it will blow me away – but at least admit your telling the same damn story!”

50 Shades; One more friggen “cookie cutter” sex menu for armchair “exsperts”

While I get the popularity of ‘50 Shades‘ – I’m not drawn to spend the time on another books that set up “cookie cutter” expectations of passion and sex.  I think the recent CNN post summed it best for me; “It’s a formula that’s been tried and tested in countless erotic novels in recent memory.“.

BLOOD FOR IRINA, Fangoria Mag’s Chris Alexander

I’ll admit it – I love my nontraditional and off beat horror flicks. While I love a big budget splash – sometimes its not having all the money that make a story told better. My pal @lewistice clued me into this one recently. Blood for Irina is an “intimate, dark, lonely, beautiful and surreal, fueled by dread, imagery and emotion” telling by writer, journalist and FANGORIA magazine editor Chris Alexander. This is Alexanders debut for Autonomy pictures a fast growing shop, gaining momentum for creative genre films.

Bringing Sex Out of the Box : Exploring the Broad Avenue of Gay Men’s Sexual Delights

Want to have some heart-to-heart with other gay men about sex, the community and what we are or are not doing? Then join an interesting group of us this Tuesday evening July 10th for…..

Bringing Sex Out of the Box :
Exploring the Broad Avenue of Gay Men’s Sexual Delights

What does sex do for you?

Why do you want certain kinds of sex?

How do you get more of what you want and avoid what you don’t want?

Think about it. Talk about it.

When Jocks ripen…

Because sometimes the content outweighs the marketing message. I buddy of mine equally as off as I am shared this on FB and I just couldn’t resist sharing here too!